I subject you to the truth. And the truth is, I dread talking about this. I know I had spelt it out quite clearly in bold letters that while I write here, I shall abandon conventions and rules. However, the reflex to edit, rewrite, strike through parts I despise; has stirred hesitation. I’ve also read that hating yourself for writing something poorly (and by poorly, I once again emphasize, insincere writing — where I put on a mask, a voice and strip facts to please you!) is quite meagre in comparison with the hatred that comes in not writing at all. Each time the floodgates of the foamy, rather lethal thoughts burst open, the sludge gets thicker and drowning does not seem viable. As I picture this, the noose gets tighter because letting you in is possibly weakening my credibility. (I wish I could omit this last bit, but writing has to offer refuge and therapy recommends the same.)
You’ve noticed the self-defensive nature of writing that has built a wall, forced me to wear blinkers and run! While I run toward that fibrous and fragile yarn (that will take me to the title of this piece), I hope to escape the hollow state of mind that I have previously described. It is time to spin the tale. (I confess, writing this statement has left my mind blank)
The fragments refuse to take a cohesive form, and thoughts are incorrigible. It takes time to tame a beast, and the trick I have employed here is using “Ts” to distract you from this needless train of thought! As I said, writers do things for dough and I am no different.
It does seem like I dread confrontation. The excessive emphasis on postmodern style is a bit too much, almost nauseating. (The ignominy of writing poorly has taken over, and my head has stooped low — I eye a sticky note on my laptop that says “You can’t edit something you don’t write” and I am rolling my eyes until I’ve studied my empty skull!) I have scrolled up, and I know the title promises you something else entirely — something that isn’t quite this self-aware and metafictional. It is time to hold the reins tighter, and focus on the fictional.
Placing this piece in the historical context of 2020, the year of a pandemic, the year that has shattered all certainties…yada yada (a broken record about how broken everything is right now, you get the gist?) The silence…rather the quiet offered by this year has had a greater impact on me more than I had thought just a minute before I typed this.
I’ve come closer to words. The amorphous, overused tool used by the world to appease and mend and distract ( I really ought not to go where this statement is taking me, sigh) and shut the other up!
I’ve come closer to words and this may be the only intimate relationship I’ve had all year. I write for about nine hours a day, and think about thoughts in words (oh no I am going to overthink Mentalese tonight!), I wrestle with feelings — and label them to lock out anxiety; and I read. (I am trying to nip this branch here- but alas! Earlier this week I was chasing and dragging my 6 year old nephew by his collar, nagging and the usual badgering, until he screamed “WHAT ARE….YOUUUUUUU DOING?” and I, with no qualms said “Bullying!” To my surprise, he said “Okay” and let me resume the said bullying. Naming the act made the difference.)
“Words, (English) words, are full of echoes, of memories, of associations — naturally. They have been out and about, on people’s lips, in their houses, in the streets, in the fields, for so many centuries. And that is one of the chief difficulties in writing them today — that they are so stored with meanings, with memories, that they have contracted so many famous marriages.” — from “Craftsmanship,” an essay by Virginia Woolf delivered as a lecture on the BBC, April 20th, 1937
I shall (finally!) be gracious enough to offer you a glimpse into what Ms Sackville-West did to me while I was locked in, away from the unfamiliar and constantly evolving world — stranded in a space I grew up in, and with me, grows Ms Sackville-West’s beloved foliage!
Her career as a garden designer, a poet, and the subject of Orlando screams sapphic to me. I shall, however, stick to my title — for this piece is only a tribute to the woman who literally laid a bed full of roses and said — keep yearning while you tend to the verdure before you.
2020 is also when people turned to Austen. (I make sure I turn to Austen at least once a year. The pandemic pushed me to her more than once.) The diabolical and double-edged sword of technology with regard to gardening is, I can watch my plants grow after their death.
Nostalgia has seeped in prematurely and I despise it. I am also grateful. This isn’t a binary, of course, it is a scale and slides each day.
A great deal of activities were undertaken to keep the head and the heart occupied. (I’ve realised “the head and the heart” is a favourite phrase, and a cute band I visit inadvertently sometimes.)
Every inch of the home was attended to. Every broken machine was fixed. I learned that dad and I can break and fix things together… if we tried.
A few months into the lockdown, our minds wandered to the lush green entrance that was dying. We didn’t know how to fix a thing with life. So we rummaged through the quarters, dialled gardeners, did a bit of reading and managed to meddle with our saplings. We also tried praying to the lemongrass plants to ward off mosquitoes and watched roses and jasmine move from the pot to everyone’s hair. A few were used to appease the gods, and the rest were laid into my books — for an afterlife party!
Cool mornings, hot noons, torrential cyclones got us in our boxers, and we’d scrub the terrace, weed out twigs, get bitten by revolting but thriving insects, and watch the days go by. It was a ritual to clean a new nook, and walk into the unexplored and dilapidated part of the island; to fix the broken and break new things, and laugh at the entire enterprise.
Eight months of this cyclical routine kept me busy, some times, too busy to be in despair. I’d smell of pesticide, or walk around with an axe, or a hoe, or carry flowers for mum, like Romeo and Hamlet’s goth child. It wasn’t a secret that sky-gazing (abyss-gazing) and bird watching were incorporated into the schedule.
What wasn’t in the schedule was outbursts of profanity at the sight of bird poo.
I am now onto something else, and having brewed this love/affair/love-affair/god-in-hell-what-am-i-saying… I’d like to stop writing about this now. Period.
P.S.
Of course there is a P.S! I liked gardening as a child, however, I like the feelings I have in a garden more than the task of it, after all, I ripped a good pair of jeans while squatting a bit too quick! On a closing note, I have also been bestowed with epithets — “Plant Pimp” “Plant daddy” “GreenGay” “Gulaabo” and … I shall speak no more!
So long.